Everyday habits that drain your energy 6/10

6/10 Everyday habits that drain your energy: Holding on to the past

Yeah, how about that?

Meditation and Yoga 101. Don’t stay in the past or out in the future. Stay in the present. It’s real hard.

But also, this is what I struggle with in my own practice.

The past also shapes who we are. We learn from it.

Isn’t that the ultimate goal to be able to reflect on the past and learn to react to situations in a different way.

But I also understand you cannot hang on to too much of the hurt from the past. It only makes us stuck and not able to move forward.

I think about this a lot. Can we learn from opportunities to reflect upon the “before?”

Being able to make choices based on something we have discovered from something we lived through in the past.

As always,

live in Beauty.

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Everyday habits that drain your energy 5/10

5. Taking things personally

What are some examples of taking things personally:

  • When someone cuts you off in traffic.

  • Being laid off.

  • When someone is cranky.

It is usually that mirror. Where someone is projecting or I am projecting onto another.

Not taking things personally is really when something happens and it doesn’t have anything to do with you.

No one else’s actions really have anything to do with us at all.

This is a hard one.

It is really hard to not take things personally.

Is taking things personally all ego?

I am sitting here thinking that it is our ego getting in the way.

I think it probably is.

And what is the ego?

It can help protect us at times.

But when we think enlightenment, it is to not have an ego.

Being an energetically sensitive person, its even harder. For example when you feel people’s energy shift.

It is a continuous practice of working with that ego.

"Don't waste yourself in rejection, not bark against the bad, but chant the beauty of the good." -Ralph Waldo Emerson

Everyday Habits that Drain our Energy 4/10

4. Gossiping

To not gossip is tricky.

What is the definition of gossiping?

“casual or unconstrained conversation or reports about other people, typically involving details that are not confirmed as being true.”

I feel like gossip is when you are sharing information with ill intent.

I think there is a difference between gossiping and processing.

I think we all need to talk to people and process things that happen to us.

Gossip is more conspiratorial.

There is something in the tone, trying to get other people involved.

When is it necessary to share something that upset you and you need to process?

When you are directly involved it is not gossip.

As a therapist, I take confidentiality very seriously.

I do uphold the conversations I have with my clients as being confidential.

Having people trust me is really important so I would never share personal information.

Everyday Habits that Drain our Energy 3/10

3. Constantly checking social media

I recently got off Facebook.

I feel my brain is healthier.

I hid the facebook app because two weeks ago I was at home on a monday and I kept picking up my phone, and picking it up and picking it up.

And JUST WASTING TIME.

I clearly don’t have enough self control to ignore the notifications.

When I hid the app I stopped getting them.

I lived without this for most of my life.

I am old enough to have lived a lot of my life without facebook.

I love posting my nature photos on instagram.

But I no longer want to be part of the social media culture.

Since Facebook decided not to fact check or not do anything about hate speech.

I do not want to be part of that.

PS I feel like it makes me a much better esthetician because I can be fully present.

Everyday Habits that Drain our Energy 2/10:

2 of 10 Comparing ourselves to others

Its really hard not to do, right?

It is human nature.

We do it when we don’t feel like we have value.

During covid times, the shut down made me stop wanting to keep up with everyone in Boulder.

So I don’t have the newest greatest pair of boots. So what.

When I stop and reflect what is really important to me, it is always my relationships with people, being able to be in the natural world, and my animals.

And of course having shelter, clean food and water. That is kind of crucial.

And of course, having my health.

But the things that aren’t crucial is having 50 pairs of black shoes.

Everyday Habits that Drain our Energy 1/10

1 of 10 Complaining all the time.

Complaining can be a habit.

We can get in the habit on focusing on the negative of things.

In relation to the skin, we can get in the negative habit of focusing on the things we do not like about our skin.

Instead of focusing on the things we do like about out skin. Or instead of focusing on beauty in general.

A few things I do to pull myself out of the negativity loop is:

  • Enjoy a good cup of coffee.

  • Go for a walk.

  • I remind myself that there is beauty in the world.

  • Listen to good music that makes you feel something.

  • I have, lately, been treating myself to fresh flowers once per week.

When summer is in full bloom, how is your skin?

Been outside a lot? Me too.

Let's talk about how to take care of your skin.

The Colorado sun can be intense. Its 96 degrees as I write this.

If you feel like your skin is being affected by this summer weather we are having, it is not your imagination.

Jumping in the pool is a great way to cool off, but the chlorine can dehydrate your skin.

And applying multiple of layers of sunscreen is important but it can lead to blackheads and blemishes.

And of course there is the issue of getting sunburns and more pigmentation.

Getting a facial can help alleviate blackheads, blemishes and dehydration.

And daily topical vitamin C is your best defense against pigmentation.

Book with me to keep your skin radiant this summer.

As always,

Live In Beauty.

Sasha Milhous

PS Stay hydrated. Get regular facials and wear SPF 30 or higher.

"The way I see it. If you want the rainbow you gotta put up with the rain."

- Dolly Parton

Beauty...

I have been thinking about the beauty of the natural world a lot lately.

I have been taking a lot of pictures. (see flowers below)

I think uniqueness is beautiful. I thinks gaps in people's teeth are beautiful. Interesting freckling... The uniqueness of eye color...

I even find scars beautiful.

I don't know. I just find unique perspectives beautiful.

There is something here.

What is beauty?

What do you want it to be?

Does getting a lash lift help you feel beautiful?

Does getting a facial and walking out glowing make you feel beautiful?

Does getting your feet rubbed making you feel beautiful?

Does wearing a cute pair of dangling earrings make you feel beautiful?

I wanna know! So, comment with your definition of beauty.

OR, Come see me and TELL me what makes you feel beautiful!

"The best way to capture moments is to pay attention.

This is how we cultivate mindfulness."

- Jon Kabat-Zinn

Thinking about anti-aging

I started thinking about aging and I starting thinking about what that means.

Personally, to me, what is 55 now? What is 65?

I am 55 and do I have crows feet, yes? Is my body changing a little bit, for sure?

But, I also feel like I am young on a lot of levels.

In some ways getting older has power, right?

You learn more of who you are who you want to be in the world and who you want to put your energy into.

It is easier to say no.

All my thinking about this has brought me to looking into how I approach this subject in the treatment room.

How, I take a holistic approach to my facial treatments by creating facials and use modalities that help stimulate collagen and elasticity.

By doing lymphatic drainage to help facilitate your bodies natural healing process.

By using guasha to help tone muscles and create circulation as well.

I am turning 56 in three weeks and I have a gift for you, my newest facial cleanser concoction.

Come in and experience this rich, moisturizing, organic, preservative free cleanser.

Book soon while supplies last.

As always,

Live In Beauty.

Sasha Milhous

“Beauty and love are as body and soul.” -Rumi